Are you holding offense?

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What's your first name? *

 
Do you find it hard to be around people who have mistreated you? *


 
Is it easy for you to compliment other people? *


 
Do you have a hard time letting your guard down? *


 
Do certain people or situations trigger pain from your past? *


 
Is it easy for you to believe the best in people? *


 
Do you have a hard time believing God has forgiven you? *


 
Do you find it easy to experience God’s love and enjoy His presence? *


 
Do you have a hard time forgiving yourself and moving beyond past mistakes? *


 
Do you find it hard to forgive someone unless they have apologized and changed? *


 
Do you find yourself hurt or disappointed by the leaders in your life, including spiritual leaders? *


Based on your answers, {{answer_47684118}}, you have a desire to be free from pain and offense, but you have difficulty getting over wounds and wrongs committed against you. Your relationships may start strong, but they quickly dissipate or become tense. You have a hard time letting people get close to you because you’ve been disappointed and let down by those you’ve trusted in the past.  

These disappointments have caused you to put up walls to keep yourself from being hurt, but these walls often become barriers to experiencing meaningful connections. The idea of forgiveness is challenging for you as there are still deep wounds that have gone unaddressed and those who have offended you are often unrepentant. Unfortunately, this resistance to forgiving others is holding you captive, robbing you of the life and intimacy God longs for you to experience.

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Based on your answers, {{answer_47684118}}, you have experienced moments of freedom, but bitterness and offenses continue to compromise your relationships. You can build relationships and even build some friendships quickly, but for the most part, you have a hard time making these relationships last over time. When those connections break, you prefer to wait for the other person to make the first move toward reconciliation. You often find yourself second-guessing people’s motives and can find it hard to believe the best in them.  

For the most part, you’re willing to forgive as long as the offense isn’t heinous. But when you get hurt by someone, you often have a hard time giving them the opportunity to make things right. There’s a good chance you have a hard time believing God truly forgives you and loves you despite your shortcomings. For this reason, you’ve found it difficult to enjoy God’s presence and receive His love. You may also find yourself getting defensive when you receive correction or negative feedback from friends or leaders.

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Based on your answers, {{answer_47684118}}, you’ve been hurt and disappointed before, but you’ve also learned the refusal to forgive traps both the offender and the offended. You enjoy a healthy relationship with God, but at times you have a hard time receiving His goodness and forgiveness. You believe it intellectually, but still have a hard time experiencing it deep within your heart, making it difficult sometimes to live in the reality of God’s forgiveness and to extend this to others.  

While you have many life-giving relationships and don’t regard anyone in particular as an adversary, it’s possible you’ve implemented safeguards that limit the number of meaningful connections you’re able to enjoy. These safeguards can, at times, lead to dissatisfaction with the depth of your relationships. It’s also possible you have limited how much you’re willing to receive from leaders and authority figures because they have disappointed you in the past.

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Based on your answers, {{answer_47684118}}, you have a thriving relationship with God and a profound understanding that you are unworthy of His forgiveness yet receive it freely. Because you live in the reality of God’s forgiveness and grace, you readily extend this to others and don’t hold offense or bitterness in your heart toward those who have wronged you. Although you may have been deeply wounded, you’ve allowed God to heal your hurts, and you feel His love for others even if they have wronged you in significant ways.  

You are quick to humble yourself and seek reconciliation when a lack of peace presents itself in a relationship, not wanting to give place to any discord or division so far as it depends on you. You seek forgiveness for the speck of sawdust in your own eye even if the other party has not dealt with the log in theirs. The people in your world are a source of strength to you because you don’t look to them as the bedrock of your identity or value. Your relationships are vibrant and healthy because you’ve discovered the only way to find life is to give it away.

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